A teenager has taken to Reddit for advice over a clingy guy she went on a date with. The lady with the username First_impxct titled her story, “How do I (18f) reject an insanely clingy (20m) after first date?” In her narration, the Original Poster (OP) shared how she met with a date once, but he refused to let go. Rather, he kept pestering her. Redditors reacted to the teenager’s story and advised her on what to do. Get the details below.
Clingy Guy Won’t Let Go After First Date
OP began her story by explaining that she went on a date a day before sharing her story on Reddit. The date was with a clingy guy she originally thought was 19 but turned out to be 20. OP’s date was a bundle of red flags, which made her decide to end things. However, she soon discovered she had gone out with a clingy guy. OP tried to leave clues to show she wasn’t interested, but her date caught none. When she tried to get out of the date by saying she needed to get to the gym that evening, he only insisted on joining her.
The clingy guy also tried to work out with her the next day. He also turned up at her workplace and vaped in the store. The clingy guy also asked to use her staff discount, making her uncomfortable. OP added:
“The worst part is that after we parted ways last night, I never even sent a single follow up message so he did all this and I hadn’t even texted him in the less than 24 hours.”
OP concluded by asking:
“How do I reject this man please I’ve never had to reject someone before…”
Dealing With Clingy People
Clinginess in a relationship is never attractive. It always leaves the other party feeling overwhelmed. Signs of clinginess include calling or texting multiple times daily or stalking them. If you experience these from someone, you may have a clingy person on your hands. Experts say you should be direct about your feelings when dealing with this. Tasha Rube, a Licensed Master Social Worker, says you should set boundaries with clingy guys. You should also create consequences for breaking these boundaries.
Rube says you should expect the clingy person to be angry when you ask them to stop contacting you. However, do not change your mind or try to argue with them when this happens. You should stand your ground and deal with any guilt that may arise from their reactions. It would help if you also focused on your well-being and safety, not hurting their feelings. Therefore, you shouldn’t be rude while enforcing boundaries.
Other Redditors Share Their Thoughts
Several Redditors read the OP’s story and shared their thoughts. One Redditor, Bee102019, encouraged the OP to be direct with the clingy guy. They asked her to tell the clingy guy they were uninterested and to stop reaching out. Bee102019 also asked OP to block the guy and alert her workplace about a possible stalker.
Another Redditor with the username TheMoatCalin warned OP not to allow the clingy guy to follow her home. She responded that he wanted to follow her to her door, but she insisted that he stop at the station. A third Redditor advised OP to ignore courtesy in her situation. They told her it was okay to be “firm” and “rude” to the clingy guy. They added:
“You’re clearly getting uncomfortable vibes from him so stick to your gut and don’t let anyone convince you that you should ignore that.”
A fourth Redditor with the username Love_me_madly alerted OP that the clingy guy could become a stalker. They asked her to tell him to leave her alone and warn him she would get a restraining order or call the police if he showed up again.
#Clique, have you ever dealt with a clingy person before? How did you handle the situation? Do you have any advice for the original poster in this story? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.
