Stress is a constant part of our lives. Work, family, and school can all cause stress. Having a strong support system, like a supportive partner, can help relieve stress. However, relationships can also cause stress. Relationship stress can be difficult to manage, especially when you are in close proximity to your partner. Therefore, learning how to overcome stress with your partner is important.
Impact of Relationship Stress
If not checked quickly, stress can affect your whole life. It can impact the body and cause depression, insomnia, headaches, and many other illnesses. It can also affect your loved ones, pets, sexual health, and relationships. A type of stress that can impact you negatively is relationship stress. Relationship stress can be detrimental to a couple if it is not well managed. It can affect the body’s endocrine, cardiovascular, and immune functions.
However, if handled properly, relationship stress can be an opportunity to bond with your partner and grow closer. Here are some ways to overcome relationship stress as a couple.
Be Open About Your Feelings
When it comes to relationship stress, honesty is a great way to overcome any issues. Communicate your feelings to your partner, whether happy, sad, or frustrated. Sometimes, you may need a hug or just someone to listen. Let your partner know how you feel and what you need each time. Ask for help when you need help. If you are on the other side, you can ask what they need help with or observe and help accordingly.
Take a Walk
Sometimes, all you need is a location change to eliminate relationship stress. Taking a walk can be effective in helping you manage stress levels. You can discuss the issues causing conflict between you and your spouse as you walk. This way, you have less tension because of distractions from the people around you. The fresh breeze and nature can also help you realize there is more to your relationship than the issues confronting you.
Use I Instead of You
Whenever you have disagreements, learn to use “i” instead of “You.” By doing so, you are moving from accusation to expressing how you feel. Turning the focus from your partner’s flaws to yourself communicates to them that you are more interested in finding a solution than trading blame. This way, they will be less defensive and more likely to stop doing the things that stress you.
Try New Things
Doing new things with your partner is a unique way of overcoming relationship stress. It can help you shift your focus from the stressors and put your relationship into a better perspective. For example, you can visit new places, play new games, and try new foods.
Listen Without Being Defensive
Sometimes, all your partner needs is a listening ear. They may rant to you not because they want to accuse you but because they just need to let things off their chest. In such situations, don’t plan your defense. Rather, pay attention to their words and non-verbal communication. You may be able to decipher what the problem is and resolve it quickly. Even if you don’t agree with them or they sound accusatory, decide to listen first.
Be Patient
You need to be patient when dealing with relationship stress. The issues causing stress didn’t develop in one day and will not disappear in one day either. You also need to know that you and your partner are different people. Consequently, you may experience issues differently. In such cases, be patient with each other as you work out your feelings and challenges. Your partner may also experience problems with situations you don’t find challenging. Be empathetic and patient as they work through the situation.
Go For Couples Counseling
If you have tried everything possible to resolve relationship stress without success, you may need to consider couples therapy. You can visit a licensed therapist for help to overcome your relationship stress. Counselors have the right tools to determine the problem and help you find a solution.
Relationship stress is inevitable. However, the outcome always varies depending on the approach taken to overcome it. Equipping yourself with the right knowledge and acting on it shows you value your relationship. This will, in turn, ensure its longevity.
#Clique, have you ever dealt with relationship stress? What steps did you and your partner take to resolve the issues? Let us know in the comments.