Everyone wants to feel loved by their significant other. We all want butterflies in the stomach, warm feelings in the chest, tingling, and blushing when we think of them. These things may happen naturally at the beginning of the relationship, even without extra effort. However, these feelings typically die when the relationship becomes serious and lasts for a while. This then mandates that couples work to keep their relationship alive and satisfying. Understanding your and your partner’s love languages is a great way to do this. This article will teach you the five love languages to help you and your partner build a stronger connection.
What are Love Languages?
Gary Chapman introduced the concept in his book, The 5 Love Languages- The Secret to Love That Lasts. These love languages are what you do to make your partner feel loved. More often than not, people assume they know how to show love. However, they do this using their preferred language, making their partners feel disrespected and unloved. If you have these issues with your partner, examining the five of them can help resolve friction and make your relationship satisfying.
Love languages can transform your relationship. Learning which is yours and your partner’s will help you correctly communicate your affection for each other. Your efforts will remain unproductive until you speak the language your partner recognizes. Speaking the wrong love language is like speaking a strange language at work; no one will understand what you are saying. Therefore, you must learn them to avoid frustration, love your partner, and be loved the right way.
Words of Affirmation
The first is words of affirmation. If your or your partner’s language is words of affirmation, but you get something else, you will never be satisfied regardless of what they do. You will constantly feel like something is missing even when you know they are trying their best. It is also easy to feel unloved or unappreciated, especially when you appreciate words of affirmation.
You constantly expect praise, compliments, kind, affirmative, and encouraging words. You will likely be sensitive if this is your love language; therefore, verbal displeasure or nagging will hurt more than usual. If your partner loves words of affirmation, you must be careful when expressing your displeasure or complaint. Encourage and praise them often so that their love tank is full.
Quality Time
For people with this love language, having their partner’s undivided attention is more important than anything else. If this is your or your partner’s love language, you will appreciate a present partner when you are with them. You feel valued when your partner isn’t talking with you and staying on their phone or watching TV.
People whose love quality time want to do activities with their partner, have conversations, and be together, usually alone. If this is your partner’s love language, you must spend time with them regularly and be attentive. This way, they can feel loved and satisfied.
Receiving Gifts
The third of the love languages is receiving gifts. Having this love language means you like to get gifts from your partner. These physical expressions of love matter to you more than anything. The cost doesn’t matter; even candy or a card will mean a lot to you. If your eyes light up and you feel loved anytime your partner gets you something, this is your love language.
If this is your partner’s love language, gift them things regularly, even without a special occasion. You can make them or buy them, and you can also give them things you find that you know they will appreciate.
Acts of Service
People with this love language feel most loved when their partners do things for them, like cleaning, doing laundry, cooking, massaging them when they are exhausted, etc. They appreciate actions more than words. Therefore, if your partner appreciates acts of service, you will fill their love tank when you do things without being asked and complaining. You must be thoughtful and sacrificial, too.
Physical Touch
The last of the love languages is physical touch. People with this love language love to be held and touched even when sex is not involved. If you like to hold hands or be touched around your body more than anything else, your love language is physical touch. If your partner’s language is physical touch, you need to touch them, hold their hands, tickle them often, or give them massages.
You can tell your partner or ask them for their pleasurable areas to ensure you/they are doing it right. It is possible to confuse the need for sex with physical touch. Therefore, if you still feel unloved and dissatisfied with sex, then physical touch may not be your love language.
Learning and understanding you and your partner’s love languages can enrich your relationship and make you happier. Note that it is possible to have more than one. However, there will usually be a primary one that keeps your love tank full. Find out yours today for a stronger relationship with your partner.
#Clique, what is your love language, and how do you want your partner to understand to show it to you? Let us know in the comments.
