A man took to Reddit for advice on handling his ex-girlfriend and her friends. The man, with the Reddit username Throwra_outlaw41, posted his story with the title, “Girlfriend (25F) cheated and disappeared. I (M25) moved on with (F24), now she’s back angry at me. What am I supposed to do?” Throwra_outlaw41 shared details of his girlfriend’s infidelity and asked for advice from Redditors. Redditors reacted to the Original Poster’s (OP) story and offered him advice. Get more details below.
Ex-Girlfriend Cheats on OP
OP started by saying that his relationship with his ex began in 2022. He shared that he was always cautious around his ex-girlfriend because she felt above him. A year after their relationship began, she took a job in Europe for a year. They started a long-distance relationship since OP couldn’t afford to move with her. OP and his ex-girlfriend communicated regularly. However, he started getting anxious when a co-worker began making advances at his ex-girlfriend.
Despite reassuring OP, she started ghosting him. After OP confronted her, she confessed that she had cheated, although the sex felt “shitty.” Throwra_outlaw41 said he was hurt and told his ex-girlfriend, but she tried to gaslight him. She asked for some time away to deal with the issue, and OP agreed to wait. However, she ghosted him again for three months, so OP went to therapy. He also decided to move on.
Angry Ex-Girlfriend Won’t Let OP Go
In the fourth month, OP started dating his stylist and found the relationship a “breath of fresh air.” He told her about his ex-girlfriend and discovered that her ex had also cheated. They talked through OP’s trust issues, and the new girlfriend understood. Six months after his ex-girlfriend cheated, OP introduced his new lover to his parents and also met her mom. After a family event, he posted pictures of them on Instagram. However, that was the beginning of OP’s trials with his ex-girlfriend. OP said:
“I woke up the next morning to a flood of angry texts from my ex. For “abandoning our relationship” and not being man enough to tell her it was over and I had moved on.”
After OP blocked her number, she continued to harass him and his girlfriend. OP addressed her online and told her their relationship had been dead since she left him. However, he started getting messages from her friends, all accusing him of being the bad guy. OP concluded by saying he didn’t think he was at fault.
Redditors Comment on OP’s Predicament
Several Redditors responded to OP’s story. A Redditor with username Briomio asked OP to block his ex-girlfriend and her friends. He added that OP’s ex was probably no longer satisfied with the new guy and wanted to get back with him. A second Redditor with the username Charlesthemore noted that the man’s ex was the “bad” and “unreasonable” party for expecting him to read her mind.
A third Redditor with the username Lost-friend-ship advised OP to block his ex-girlfriend. They shared that the ex wanted his attention, so engaging her would only make her happy. The Redditor reasoned that blocking her would be the “ultimate revenge” as she wouldn’t be able to understand it. They concluded:
“She’ll 100% keep pestering him for a bit, hoping to get a rise out of him. If he doesn’t take the bait she’ll be livid.”
Another Redditor, with the username Sparklepantsmagoo2, gave OP a way out with his ex-girlfriend’s friends. They said:
“If the friends are getting involved, make a group chat, post all her texts and the backstory, leave it for a day on mute then block them all.”
#Clique, what do you think about OP’s story? What is your advice for him? If you were in his shoes, what action would you take to stop your ex from bothering you? Let us know in the comments.