Divorces are never planned. Well, at least that is what two people who believed their marriage would last think. But sometimes, life happens and couples need to go their separate ways. It could be that the couple fell out of love. Another reason could be that one party failed to keep to their vows. Whatever the case, divorce seemed like the right answer. Regardless of when people divorce, studies have shown that there is a time frame with a high possibility of divorce.
The Year Couples Split The Most
Reports have it that in the US, about 50% of first marriages end in divorce. As for second marriages, there is a 60% failure rate. Meanwhile, for third marriages, 73% of such unions fail. Somehow these couples have one thing in common — a particular year or period when it fails!
There are two different years when divorce can happen and it has been proven. It is usually between the second and third years of marriage. Those in the seventh and eighth years are also on this scale.
Statistics show that one common reason for such is “The Seventh Year Itch.” According to this theory, a couple’s interest in commitment begins to dwindle. This happens after seven years of marriage. Furthermore, this theory shows that most first marriages end after eight years. While second marriages manage to reach the seventh year.
When Is Divorce Less Likely?
Still on “The Seventh Year Itch” theory, once a couple goes through it successfully, they are safe. That is not to say that couples with longer years cannot divorce. But the reality of such happening becomes thinner as the years go by. From year nine to year fifteen, most couples settle into their marriages.
At this point, there is stable commitment and satisfaction from the relationship. Additionally, they would have achieved a few of their life goals too. This includes a good job, home, and kids. While this is a tested theory, some couples divorce after fifteen years and before they reach the first year.
Reasons Couple Divorce
There are different reasons a couple may decide to go their different ways. See the list below.
They Realize They Want Different Things
The ‘a-ha’ moment for some couples leads them to divorce. It could be that they grew into a different person with different goals. It could be an issue stirred by relocating out of town. Sometimes a wife would prefer to not move often considering the kids. While a husband would want to pursue his career in a new town.
Infidelity/Cheating
This is a deal breaker for most homes. Some couples never repair their marriage once the trust is broken. Studies in America say that more men are likely to cheat than women. Around 20% to 40% of men would be unfaithful in their romance. While 20% to 25% of women also fall into this category.
Lack Of Connection Leads To Divorce
Having kids, and issues like getting a job far away from home can cause constraints in romances. Some couples never get a hang of it which leads to their divorce. Instead of building the connection, they get easily distracted.
Financial Woes
This is one of the most common forces against marriages. A couple’s tough time with no money leads to stress. This in turn tells on their level of empathy and love for each other.
Final Note
Whatever the case, divorce is not a death sentence. However, let it be the last resort. Try to reignite that spark and remember the good times shared. Then maybe that marriage can escape divorce.
#Clique, what are your thoughts?
