A mother recalled the moment she had to have her sister-in-law removed from her daughter’s baby shower. The 47-year-old woman detailed the incident in a post on Reddit’s well-known “Am I The A——” forum, explaining that the confrontation occurred during her 25-year-old daughter’s baby shower for her second child, per PEOPLE.
How it Started
“Her first child, Phillip, was stillborn two years ago at 38 weeks,” the woman explained. “When she lost him, she asked us to take apart the nursery before she got home and ‘get rid of’ the baby equipment” because it would make her sad seeing it around the house.
“We offered to return the baby shower gifts to the givers, most kindly refused and asked us to donate the items… except my husband’s sister, Rachel,” she continued. “She made a HUGE deal out of my daughter being ‘hysterical’ and constantly, loudly talked about how ‘ridiculous’ it was to take apart the nursery.”
Since that incident, the woman mentioned that she has intentionally restricted her sister-in-law’s interactions with her daughter. The sister-in-law wasn’t allowed to attend family gatherings until she agreed to stop discussing the matter.
How it Ended
However, at her daughter’s baby shower, particularly when it came time to open gifts the sister-in-law blurted out, “If you hadn’t torn Phillip’s nursery apart and gotten rid of everything, you wouldn’t be here begging for presents for this baby,’ ” the Redditor recalled.
She said that her daughter instantly “froze,” and then “tears started running down her face.” This led the woman to tell her sister-in-law to leave, but she refused to. Her husband came into the room and asked “what happened,” she shared. “His mom told him and he physically picked up his sister and put her down outside the door.”
The rest of the family largely supports her decision, she assured Redditors.
#Clique, what are your thoughts?
Woman Says Sister-in-Law Was Physically Removed from Family Baby Shower After Making the Mom-to-Be Cryhttps://t.co/jgrMZDNwP5
A woman who inherited $20,000 from her mother’s late partner doesn’t want to share it with her husband. In a Reddit post, she explained that her mother, who isn’t from the U.S., fell in love with a wealthy American widower. The unnamed Redditor said that her husband disapproved of their relationship, per PEOPLE.
“Sometimes I feel he’s allergic to people finding happiness around him,” the woman said about her husband.
The woman’s husband was so opposed to the relationship that they had a fight about it. He treated the older man coldly and also disrespected the woman’s mother, her post said.
“To cut the long story short, this man died after a brief illness (after being with my mum for about 4 years),” she continued.
When he passed away, the man left $150,000 in property to the woman’s mother. After selling one property for a $100,000 profit, her mother gifted her $20,000. The woman wants to invest in #Nigeria, but her husband insists on using the money for their real estate business, which the woman expressed she isn’t comfortable with.
“I understand what he owns is mine and vice versa, but this is the money of the same man he loathed.”
“Am I wrong for not wanting to share the money with him?,” she questioned.
A bride is upset about unasked advice she received before her wedding, per PEOPLE. In a Reddit post on the r/weddingshaming forum, she shared how relatives on her guest list created an uncomfortable moment by saying she is “too young to get married.”
At first, the 34-year-old bride didn’t invite her cousin. However, after she and her 40-year-old fiancé received financial assistance from his relatives, they could add a few more guests, including her cousin, who is in his late 40s.
The bride wrote on Reddit, “He is a bit awkward and has the tendency to say inappropriate things.”
“My fiancé and I didn’t initially invite him to our wedding because we wanted to keep our numbers down,” she added.
When they invited him just a few days ago, the bride got a confirmation that he would attend. Yet, just one day after, she got a Facebook message from him that left her a bit shocked and confused.
The Facebook message read, “Thanks for the invite to your wedding! Are you sure about what you’re getting into? You’re too young.”
She then responded, “Actually, you’re right. I am not quite sure. Might cancel the wedding. I’ll let you know.”
He didn’t respond to her message.
#Clique, was her cousin wrong? What are your thoughts?
A woman was shocked to receive a birthday party invitation from a friend asking for a $499 fee for a two-hour event. Bringing a plus-one would cost an extra $250. The stunned woman uploaded a photo of the invitation on #Reddit, per The New York Post.
The unnamed woman wrote on Reddit, “Friend got elected for city council and purchased a new home and somehow this makes sense to her… Gotta pay the mortgage somehow.”
Reddit users chimed in commenting on the price. Some revealed that the high price is “crazy,” and others wondered if it was actually a fundraising event pretending to be a birthday party. The invite didn’t say if it was an open bar or if food was included in the price.
A woman claims her friend group has rejected her after she laughed at the baby name chosen by her friend. She shared her story on Reddit about her best friend “K,” per PEOPLE.
The shocked woman wrote in a Reddit post, “We’ve been talking about baby names for weeks, just throwing out ideas for fun… She even joked about some really insane names, and we laughed about how some people pick the most cringe stuff. So I thought we were on the same page about what was reasonable…..”
However, a couple of days ago, her bestie finally selected a name for her baby.
“And it’s something straight out of Genshin Impactor Skyrim,” said the redditor as she referred to two video games.
Although the woman doesn’t reveal her friend’s chosen name for privacy reasons, she mentioned it was similar to names like “Zephyr Rocket” or “Banjo Fox.”
“I honestly thought she was messing with me, so I laughed. Not like a mean laugh, just a genuine reaction like… wait.. shut up, what is the real name?,” she wrote.
“But nope. That was the real name. She got super quiet and was like.. that is the name. I could tell immediately I messed up, so I tried to backpedal, but she looked kinda hurt and changed the subject. Later, a mutual friend told me she was upset and thought I was being rude,” the post added.
The woman feels left out by her friend group after finding out she wasn’t invited to a recent gathering, subsequently realizing that she has been cut out.
“Literally everyone else was there. I found out after the fact, and its hard not to feel like its bc of the baby name thing,” the woman wrote.
“I really didn’t mean to be rude, I just genuinely thought she was joking based on our past Convos,” she went on to say.
Hours after saying their “I dos,” the bride and groom hosted wedding guests with neither thinking of the worst thing a drunk invitee might do. According to the woman who shared her story on Reddit, their afterparty was to last all night and there was an open bar. Unfortunately, the groom’s sister brought a plus one who had drinking problems.
Yet, his date—her sister-in-law failed to mention it to curtail his habits at the party. As the night proceeded, the wedding guest who had become drunk asked for a dance with the bride. While honoring his request, he puked on her dress, her wedding dress! While she was able to save most of her outfit from the vomit, her feet were a total disaster.
Consequently, the bride alongside her friends raced for the bathroom where they salvaged the situation. She then resolved to continue into the night, enjoying her memorable wedding party. Meanwhile, the drunk wedding guest was led out by angry groomsmen who berated him outside the venue.
However, the bride intervened, and instead of having him hang around, she asked for a cab to pick him up. The bride maintained that his actions made her shoes wet, so she chose to dance without any which left her with blisters the next morning.
The drunk guest did not find the time to apologize. Instead days after the incident, he felt embarrassed and allowed his date—her sister-in-law to apologize. Many commenters blamed the sister-in-law for not keeping an eye on her man. On the other hand, others believed that a late-night party with alcohol was bound to have its consequences.
A Redditor has taken to the platform to seek advice about what to do about a job where they were feeling underpaid. The Redditor with username LemmeSeeEmTatas posted a story titled “How to Deal with Being Underpaid?” In their story, Original Poster (OP) shared how they discovered other people with their job descriptions and title got a higher salary. Other Redditors reacted to OP’s story and advised them on what to do. Get more details below.
Redditor Feeling Underpaid at Work
OP explained that they worked in business planning in a large tech company and earned about $110K per year with ~20K RSU. OP had five years of experience in their role. However, they were feeling underpaid because everyone else with the same title was making about $30K more than OP. The Redditor talked to their manager about this discrepancy and was told they needed to impress their leaders better to get a promotion and the same amount as everyone else. OP added:
“However I had a 1:1 with team director who told me it had been clear for 1.5 years that that no one in our team would get a raise / promotion no matter what. I feel like manager is totally misleading me and using vague phrases.”
OP concluded by asking:
“Advice on what to do? Please don’t be rude. I am trying to learn how to play the corporate game.”
Other Redditors Share Their Thoughts
Several Redditors read OP’s story about feeling underpaid and shared their thoughts. A Redditor with the username Kenzakan told OP their manager wasn’t really wrong. They said OP needed to impress their leaders so they could “justify a raise” because their manager wasn’t in charge of such decisions.
However, Kenzakan suggested that the team director might be wrong because companies promote the right people despite their poor finances. They also noted that the director’s words were a warning not to expect a raise.
Another Reddit, Spyder73, asked OP if they were young because age also played a factor in such situations. Spyder73 shared that a 10-year age difference might be why OP was paid less for the same job title, which was an “appropriate” situation. They advised OP to focus on their work experience and attitude while shelving the raise topic for a while. They concluded:
“Being money motivated is not a bad thing, reminding your manager that you are money motivated at every single intersection makes you exhausting to be around and manage. Truth is, if you want a 30k raise, you need to move jobs.”
A third Redditor with the username Healthy_Bet3360 echoed Spyder73’s sentiments. They said the OP might be unnecessarily feeling underpaid when they were not. Healthy_Bet3360 said job titles are not a metric for payment rates, and the others likely racked up experiences or impressed their leaders, making them earn higher. They advised the OP to do more to earn more. The Redditor also advised the OP to document their work and achievements if they felt they deserved more and keep them for when talks about a raise resumed.
Strategies to Address Pay Discrepancies in Your Career
You can start feeling underpaid at any point in your career. Pay discrepancies exist and can be devastating, especially when you believe your work mirrors that of others who earn significantly higher salaries while holding your job title. If you have encountered this issue, here are a few ways to address feeling underpaid professionally. First, find out why the pay discrepancy exists. Is it due to recognitions, years of experience, and awards others have? Or is it because of better negotiation during their interviews?
Next, arrange for a one-on-one meeting with a manager. During your session, be direct but diplomatic, professional, and courteous. Ask for an explanation of why you are paid less and mention your struggles. You should also try negotiating for higher pay and highlighting your achievements and contributions to the organization. Listen closely, and don’t be on the defensive. Meanwhile, don’t try to replace your request with other benefits if denied. Finally, give your best pending when you get a raise or leave.
#Clique, have you ever felt underpaid? How did you navigate the situation? Let us know in the comments.
A Redditor has taken to the platform to seek advice about quitting a job a friend helped them get. The Redditor with username Prize-Ad-9144 posted a story titled “How to go about quitting a job my friend got me ASAP.” In her story, Original Poster (OP) detailed how her friend got her a job with non-commensurate pay, which she was hesitant to leave because of her friend’s feelings. Other Redditors reacted to OP’s story and advised her. Get more details below.
Redditor Reluctant About Quitting a Job
OP explained that a friend helped her get a $12/hr job at a clinic after her business shut down the same year. The job was far from OP’s house, so she spent a lot of money on gas. She also worked full-time for 11 hours daily, leaving her no time for other activities. However, OP and her friend had agreed that she would only have the job until she found a better one. After three months at the job, she was tired and ready to go.
A month before her post, OP received a better job offer as a barista. She accepted because she had prior experience, and the offer was better, although she planned to work both jobs for the extra income. The clinic was also short-staffed after firing some staff recently, and OP didn’t want to leave at such a critical time. Hence, she applied for a part-time position, which the clinic initially accepted but later denied. Consequently, OP turned in her resignation letter with six weeks’ notice.
The Redditor took ill with a cough the day before her post but chose to go to work. However, her sickness worsened over the weekend, so she called in at the start of the week. However, the clinic told her she had to give up one of the days she had requested time off to attend an event. OP contacted her friend, who also worked at the clinic, to inform her that she would not come to work.
However, her friend, who had a good relationship with their co-workers outside of work, defended the clinic instead because she wrongly assumed it was a gesture borne out of concern for OP. Meanwhile, OP knew this wasn’t true. She stated:
“For 12$/hr, none of this is worth it at all. I am so grateful to my friend for helping me with getting a job in the first place, but I literally am still sick and I have a shift there to work in the morning. I am constantly stressing myself out because I don’t want them to be untrustful of my friend because I have been sick and needed to call out. I also don’t want my friend to think of me differently, because I care about her and she seems passionate about this job, even though she actually gets paid less than me when she’s been there for over a year (insane, I know).”
OP decided she no longer wanted to work at the clinic despite giving them a six-week notice because she was “physically and mentally” exhausted. However, she was worried about how her friend would receive the news. OP said she planned to explain everything to her friend in detail and thank her for looking out for her. She noted that she had always been civil in her interactions with the management and added:
“I do have mental health issues, and this year has been really, really rough on me since I have just lost so much, but just being here any longer being paid an unliveable wage while expecting me to bend over backwards for them is going to make me explode.”
OP concluded by saying:
“No, I have not called in because I needed a mental health day, I have just shown up medicated to work even if I felt like a walking zombie for 11 hours. I really don’t want to come in still sick tomorrow(and won’t), and genuinely just don’t want to even come back ever after tonight. I just have crippling anxiety and always live with constant guilt over the smallest things so I’m unsure how to do or write professionally in an email that I will not be continuing on with the company.”
Other Redditors Share Their Thoughts
Several Redditors read OP’s story and shared their thoughts. A Redditor with the username Ermmahhhgerrrd advised OP to contact her supervisor and take time off. Ermmahhhgerrrd reasoned that they might fire OP anyway. However, they asked OP to tell her supervisor she wanted to move her resignation date forward.
A second Redditor, Adriene737, told OP her health should be her top priority and advised her to leave the job immediately since it affected her negatively. They asked OP to be honest with the clinic and resign and reasoned that her friend would understand.
A third Redditor, LessDramaLlama, admonished OP that she couldn’t make everyone happy, including her friend and supervisor. They asked OP to look out for herself and learn to say no. LessDramaLlama argued that OP’s friend would understand and respect her feelings if she were a genuine friend.
OP responded to LessDramaLlama’s comment, revealing that she sent her fast-tracked resignation after her post. She also revealed that her friend was “extremely supportive” when she told her everything. OP concluded:
“This is probably the only thing I cared about. If I wasn’t so in my head about her possible reaction, I’d have quit earlier.”
Quitting a Job a Friend Helped You Get Respectfully and Professionally
Quitting a job a friend helped you get is often a tough decision. You must consider your friend’s feelings and reputation because they risked their standing to refer you. However, this job may not be a good fit, and you need to leave. Quitting a job like this is not impossible. First, you must talk to your friend and help them understand why you need to go. Then, leave the job gracefully. Don’t cause trouble that may backfire on your friend and ruin your friendship.
Additionally, be honest about why you are leaving and thank the company or workplace for the opportunity to work with them. This will preserve your friend’s reputation when you are quitting a job, which will also help maintain your relationship.
#Clique, what do you think about OP’s story? Have you been in such a situation before? How did you handle it? Let us know in the comments.
Via Reddit, an anonymous 40-year-old shared his predicament with members of his family concerning his ex-girlfriend’s name. In the write-up, he explained that he had just welcomed a baby girl with his new wife, Anna. They wanted to call her Elizabeth. But when the baby arrived, the new parents decided to change the name.
During their deliberation process, he suggested his ex-girlfriend’s name, Imogen. The new dad assured readers that Anna loved the name. But the other reason he chose it was to honor a deceased ex.
Imogen and the poster were in a long-term romance that lasted for 12 years. It ended after her death, but still, his love for her did not disappear. As for his new wife, the man revealed that she has his heart as his life, future, and family.
Expectedly, Anna reacted to the situation. She sobbed a bit, leaving the new dad to rethink his decision. Eventually, they agreed to name their daughter Eleanor. However, this compromise failed to ease the tension the initial suggestion introduced. Anna prefers to say little while she rarely interacts with the newborn. The writer added that his wife only complained that her recent pregnancy was tougher.
On top of his wife’s moodiness, the poster is faced with relatives who feel disappointed. His family has blamed him, citing the wrong timing for his decision. Amid the consequences, the man believes that his ex-girlfriend’s name for his newborn was not a big deal.
Several commenters agreed with the poster’s family claiming that the suggestion was entirely selfish. Others added that he hurt his wife intentionally and has refused to see it.
A man has taken to Reddit to seek advice about wanting a fresh start. The man, with Reddit username Mister-Menor, posted a story titled, “Burned out and depressed after reaching financial stability.” In his story, Original Poster (OP) revealed that he started working early and was financially stable but depressed. A Redditor reacted to the man’s story and advised him on what to do. Get more details below.
OP Has Financial Stability but is Depressed
OP began by stating that he wanted a drastic change. He revealed that he started working in retail full-time after high school and combined it with full-time community college attendance. However, OP dropped out due to burnout and financial challenges. He had to support his parents and siblings for some time, too, so he poured himself into his work.
Nevertheless, OP’s family became financially independent shortly before his post. This allowed OP to settle his debts and save $75 thousand. However, after achieving financial stability, he became depressed and burned out again. OP said:
“I do nothing but work and sleep. No games, movies, drinking, or any other leisure activity. I’m single, I have no friends or free time to pursue things that interest me. I feel like I had to drop out of life to take care of my family. I feel like I missed out on a bunch of life experience, and want that to change.”
Mister-Menor thought his job impeded getting the change he wanted. He complained about the long hours and erratic shifts, which prevented him from making plans. He also wanted to quit, but the lack of a degree terrified him since he didn’t know if he could get another job with a different schedule. OP added that he had other interests that could get him lucrative jobs but was afraid to risk his financial stability. He had also considered college but didn’t want any debts. He added:
“Maybe buy some tools and machining equipment to teach me CNC and CAD? But I wouldn’t be making any money right off the bat, and my interest is less in work and more in making a particular finished product. Get a commercial helicopter pilot certification? Definitely interesting, but I worry about blowing all my money only to learn that I only like it as a hobby.
OP concluded by asking:
“Any advice or thoughts? I’m happy to give extra information.”
Other Redditors Share Their Thoughts
A Redditor read OP’s story and shared their thoughts. The Redditor with the username Chumbucketdaddy told OP he could return to community college, which was an affordable option. Chumbucketdaddy told OP he could transfer to a state school after a semester or two if he liked it. The Redditor concluded:
“Seems like you want to go to college and you think it’ll advance your career, just be smart with it financially.”
OP responded to Chumbucketdaddy, thanking him for the advice. He replied that a college degree wasn’t a success marker for him, and he had no idea what major to study. However, OP added that he wanted specialist degrees like nuclear engineering. He further revealed that he attended classes for 16 hours every time he had lectures when he attended college for the first time. This meant that he didn’t have enough time for sleep or anything else, and he didn’t do that for another four years.
#Clique, what do you think about OP’s situation? What advice do you have for him? Let us know in the comments.
