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  • Advice To Mothers In Their Early 20s: ‘Don’t Forget About Yourself, Mama’

    Advice To Mothers In Their Early 20s: ‘Don’t Forget About Yourself, Mama’

    Motherhood is an identity shift resulting in an emotional psychological awakening of oneself. These factors can challenge a woman entirely and force adjustment due to a woman’s unrealistic expectation of motherly transitions.

    The media often masks the realities of motherhood causing conflict in many young women’s lives who may not receive their maternal instinct right away after giving birth. In most cases, this is a clear representation of the concept of Maternal Ambivalence.

    Women should be more honest and open to discussing the complexities of motherhood. As a mother myself, I can see the standards of perfectionism and self-judgment we hold ourselves accountable for and they are unrealistic. Here is some advice to navigate through this tough beautiful journey:

    1. Do Not Forget About Yourself, Mama

    As a first-time mom, oftentimes, you are put on the back burner for your new bundle of joy. Although your loved ones are excited about the new addition to the family, it is common that mothers are no longer the top priority you once were. It is a great feeling to see your loved ones in awe of your blessing, but do not forget to give yourself that same love and attention. You need it now more than ever!

    2. Be Patient 

    Give yourself some grace mama. Be patient with yourself, be kind. You may have raised other children, but those experiences do not compare to beginning your own journey as a parent. Every child is different, just like every pregnancy is different, so why would you expect the same version of yourself? Get rid of the pressures that society puts out there of maternal ambivalence. Take your time learning about yourself and your baby in this new chapter, and minimize those expectations you have of yourself. It will be easier to enjoy these new moments with your family.

    3. Find Your Tribe/Support System

    Every day you wake up as a mom, you wake up with your invisible capes on. It is fine to not be super mom sometimes. Do not be afraid to ask for help when it is needed. Build your tribe and create a support system that can aid you when you can’t help yourself. It can be tiresome trying to balance your wants and needs; however, it’s necessary to make the time. You are not a burden, allow your village to contribute.

  • Mother Shocked After Son Received Bad Grades For Failing To Bring Classroom Supplies

    Mother Shocked After Son Received Bad Grades For Failing To Bring Classroom Supplies

    A mother recently took to TikTok to share a concerning incident involving her son’s teacher and classroom supplies for the entire class. In her video, which has gained over 2 million views and a plethora of comments, Shanitta explained that her son was instructed to bring in supplies such as tissues, hand sanitizer, and wipes for his classroom

    She bought classroom supplies, but a zero still marked her son’s classroom supplies grade in the third week. Shanitta emailed the teacher, disagreeing with grading students based on supply contributions. She also reached out to the principal to address the issue. She explained,

    “I don’t feel that it’s the parent’s job to supply your classroom. And, I definitely don’t think it’s appropriate to assign a grade to students based off of whether or not they supplied your class with supplies.” 

    BuzzFeed contacted Shanitta, who explained that she contacted the principal to highlight the financial strain this requirement places on families, particularly those who are already struggling. The principal responded by stating that penalizing students for lacking supplies is not standard practice.

    She told the news outlet,

    “I pointed out to the principal that although my family could afford to buy the additional supplies, there are many families that are already struggling to buy their children’s personal school supplies and simply can’t afford the extra. This would mainly affect lower income families and that isn’t right for the kids as it’s not their fault.” 

    Shanitta thinks schools should supply resources, not just relying on teachers or parents. Many TikTok users supported Shanitta’s viewpoint, agreeing that students should not be penalized for not bringing in supplies.

    #Clique, what do y’all think about that? 

  • Mother Charged After Sexually Assaulting Her Daughter and Inviting Other Men Including A Sex Offender To Join

    Mother Charged After Sexually Assaulting Her Daughter and Inviting Other Men Including A Sex Offender To Join

    A Texas mother has been accused of sexually abusing her own 10-year-old daughter and making plans for a registered sex offender to join them in the abuse, reports the New York Post. 37-year-old Elizabeth Spaeth admitted to engaging in sexual activity with her underage daughter on numerous occasions, which led to her arrest. Her fiancé, Garrett Andrew Bailey, 35, was also charged with sexual abuse after Spaeth confessed to letting him abuse her daughter at least three different times. Additionally, registered sex offender 40-year-old Jarrod Kirkus was arrested after Spaeth reached out to him on Snapchat to arrange for him to abuse her daughter.

    The alarming case unfolded after officials responded to a call at an apartment complex and discovered Kirkus alone with the unnamed 10-year-old girl. He was taken into custody on a warrant for distribution of child pornography. Further investigation disclosed that there was no connection between Kirkus and the child, which led authorities to her mother. She admitted to facilitating the meeting between her daughter and Kirkus and confessed to having sex with her daughter numerous times. She also disclosed that Bailey had joined in on the abuse and had even sexually assaulted the girl once without Spaeth present. According to an affidavit, Bailey started abusing the girl when she was just 8 years old. 

    Following Spaeth’s arrest, the 10-year-old girl and another child were taken from the residence. Spaeth and Bailey were charged with continuous sexual assault of a child amongst other charges, while Kirkus was charged with possession with intent to promote pornography.

    #Clique, what are your thoughts? 

  • Mother and Son Arrested After Shooting BB Gun At Minors Following Argument On Social Media

    Mother and Son Arrested After Shooting BB Gun At Minors Following Argument On Social Media

    A teen from Connecticut, 18-year-old Luis Hernandez, and his 42-year-old mother, Mary Pruenca, were apprehended and charged after having a BB gun shootout with minors following a verbal disagreement that occurred on social media, officials say, reports the New York Post. 

    The teen was arrested following an investigation into the BB gun shootout which took place on Feb. 19 in Plainfield, reports WTNH. 

    Officials say they responded to an uproar that involved 10 people at 10:52 p.m. Reports say that Hernandez, his mother, and another male went to a home after an argument with minors that happened online. Hernandez reportedly provoked a fight with the minors and fired at their home with the BB Gun, tarnishing the property. 

    Officials say the man who was with the mother and son didn’t get involved, and they all fled before authorities got to the scene. On May 10, the mother was taken into custody and charged with breach of peace and risk of injury to a minor. She was later released on a $10,000 bond. The teen was charged with breach of peace and risk of injury to a minor, along with illegal discharge of a firearm, criminal mischief, reckless endangerment, and assault. He was later released on a $50,000. Reports say his hearing is set for July 31. 

    #Clique, what are your thoughts?

  • Mother Revealed That Her Mother-In-Law ‘Breastfed’ Her Baby Despite Not Being Able To Produce Milk, Claimed She Was Trying To ‘Soothe The Newborn

    Mother Revealed That Her Mother-In-Law ‘Breastfed’ Her Baby Despite Not Being Able To Produce Milk, Claimed She Was Trying To ‘Soothe The Newborn

    A woman is shocked after learning her mother-in-law breastfed her child despite her not being able to produce milk. According to the New York Post, the mother revealed in a Reddit post that she asked her mother-in-law to watch over her child for a few hours while she stepped out. 

    When the woman arrived back home, she and her mother-in-law were conversing when she told her in the middle of their conversation that the baby refused to drink his bottle. The newborn’s mother said on Reddit that her mother-in-law was attempting to

    “soothe”

    the child. 

    The mother then revealed that her mother-in-law

    “just casually brought it up like it was the most normal thing ever.”

    The shocked mom went on to explain that her mother-in-law

    “does not produce breastmilk” adding that she

    “wasn’t even trying to feed the baby.”

    The mom

    “sat there in shock”

    as her in-law explained what she did. The stunned mother

    “then started nervous laughing.” 

    She later informed her husband and started to cry. The distraught mother went on to write,

    “She’s definitely not babysitting anymore… Like what the actual f—k.”

    #Clique, was this out of line? 

  • Mother Charged With Murder After 7-Year-Old Girl Was Discovered Dead In Closet, Reports Say She Was Left In The Closet For Months

    Mother Charged With Murder After 7-Year-Old Girl Was Discovered Dead In Closet, Reports Say She Was Left In The Closet For Months

    Sadly, a young girl’s body was discovered decaying in an Atlanta home after officials received an anonymous tip. The victim was identified as 7-year-old Alivia Hobbs-Jordan. Although the home was evacuated for months, a man found the apartment door open and smelled a horrible odor, according to Cafemom. PEOPLE reported that the man witnessed an arm hanging out of the closet and instantly contacted officials. The unnamed man recalled,

    “She looked like a mummy.” 

    Officials believe the mother, Alondra Hobbs, left the autistic girl, at some point, between February 28 and June 25. On June 29, the mother was apprehended and later charged with felony murder and cruelty in the second degree, said The Dekalb County Police Department in a Facebook post. 

    According to ABC 7, a neighbor informed officials that it’s been several months since they’ve seen the tenant. Another unnamed neighbor informed WSB that earlier in the year, the mother expressed that she wanted to kill herself. The neighbor said,

    “Everybody like, ‘Why you want to kill yourself?’ She never said…But she never let you in her apartment. Never.”

    Authorities confirmed that the young girl was left in the closet for several months; however, they haven’t confirmed the exact cause of death. PEOPLE reported that officials believe the mother purposely abandoned the child and had no plans of returning to the apartment. When police located the girl in the closet, they found

    “what appeared to be a full head of hair and decayed flesh that was in the form of an arm and leg.”

    They also discovered mail with the mother’s name on it.

    Relatives spoke about the incident, as one family member, Latrience Robinson said,

    “I just didn’t see that in her. We all have issues, but I didn’t think she would do something to her kids,”

    Fox 5 reported. Robinson told WAGA,

    “We had no clue…The baby was supposed to be with the dad’s mom in Albany. That’s what she kept telling us.” 

    #Clique, let’s keep the victim’s family in our thoughts and prayers! 

  • Woman Fatally Stabbed By Father Of Her Children Despite Having A Restraining Order Against Him, Mother Reportedly Stabbed In Front Of Their Children

    Woman Fatally Stabbed By Father Of Her Children Despite Having A Restraining Order Against Him, Mother Reportedly Stabbed In Front Of Their Children

    32-year-old Rodrigo Bravo turned himself in after stabbing his children’s mother to death in front of their children despite her having a restraining order against him, according to PEOPLE. 

    Bravo has been charged with felony child endangerment, violation of probation, and violation of a domestic violence restraining order. He was also charged with murder for the death of 30-year-old Eleni Tavau. 

    Close to 3 p.m. on June 25, officials went to a California home after receiving reports of a stabbing. They discovered the mother unresponsive with several stab wounds. According to a release,

    “Her two toddler-aged children were present when officers arrived.” 

    Although the mother was treated at the scene and taken to the hospital, reports say she later died. Officials learned that she had a restraining order against her child’s father. Bravo was taken into custody the same day and he admitted to stabbing the woman. 

    The investigation is ongoing and Bravo, the father of Tavau’s children, is being held on a $1 million bond, reports KRON 4. 

    #Clique, let’s keep Eleni Tavau in our prayers!

  • Mother Charged After Reportedly Shooting 17-Year-Old Son After Arguing Over Video Game

    Mother Charged After Reportedly Shooting 17-Year-Old Son After Arguing Over Video Game

    A mother, Jaquana Butler, is facing charges after reportedly shooting her teen son following an alleged argument between the two, which occurred on Thursday. According to WSB-TV, the teen is in the hospital. 

    Officials were called to an Atlanta apartment where they discovered a 17-year-old who was shot several times. He was later transported to a hospital. There haven’t been any updated reports on his condition. The 34-year-old mother has been identified as the person behind the gun.

    Reports say that the mother and son got into a verbal disagreement over a

    “video game console”

    causing her to grab a firearm and shoot the teen. She was later apprehended and charged with aggravated assault, reckless conduct, and cruelty to children. 

    #Clique, what are your thoughts? 

  • Parents Arrested and Charged After Their 8-Month-Old Child Died From Fentanyl Exsposure, Officials Say

    Parents Arrested and Charged After Their 8-Month-Old Child Died From Fentanyl Exsposure, Officials Say

    A mother and father, Jeffrey Terakami, 36, and Kara Marie Dugan, 31, have been apprehended in connection to the death of their 8-month-old child after an autopsy report discovered that the child was exposed to fentanyl, officials say, according to FOX. 

    Nevada officials responded to the residence on Nov. 15, 2022, after they received a call about an unresponsive child. Once authorities arrived, they began conducting methods to help save the child. The unidentified infant was then transported to a Henderson, Nevada hospital and sadly, declared deceased. An autopsy by the Clark County Coroner’s Office was performed which revealed that the cause of death was

    “a result of fentanyl toxicity,”

    according to FOX. Reports say the child was also exposed to methamphetamine.

    The parents were interviewed and they both admitted that the infant was exposed to methamphetamine and fentanyl after the father had a bag filled with both drugs on the bed, which spilled. The parents confessed that the infant was later allowed to crawl on the

    “bed where the drugs were spilled.” 

    They were both charged with second-degree murder. 

    #Clique, What are your thoughts?