Healthy relationships should be defined. Such an approach ensures that your emotions are checked and helps you grow. In the affairs of the heart, we may state our preferences but accept what finally comes along. While this may translate as love being blind, it also has its downside. Taking what comes even when you have standards can be that you genuinely fall in love with someone you never expected to seem attractive. On the other hand, it could also translate as you taking what or whoever is available despite setting standards. In the end, your happiness matters, and you should not compromise on that.
Having established that, you must know that there are common ways to define a relationship. Defining your romance or friendship turns it into a healthy and desirable one. Before going into your “butterflies in my tummy” phase, practice these steps:
Cautiousness
In beginning a defined relationship, you must be able to filter who stays and goes in your life. By being cautious, you decipher the ones you keep as friends and those who never make it past the acquaintance line.
Curiousness
Whether as a romantic partner or not, practising curiosity is key to developing a healthy and defined relationship. And no, in terms of your well-being, curiosity won’t kill the cat. This is the phase when you spend time with people or that special someone who caught your eye. At this point, you begin to feel interested in knowing their life pattern. This is when you make the big decision to continue or press pause.
Confidence
All healthy relationships begin with one person expressing confidence in another. You can talk to a listening ear and one who offers comfort or a solution. This stage also helps you process the person’s importance to you as a friend or lover.
Connection
There is no denying that the attraction exists. In this defining relationship stage, you want to feel that your attention is being reciprocated.
Commitment
This seals the deal to a defined relationship. Now you know you two are in this together, and there is no going back. Well, unless the connection or bond turns sour.
Boundless.org advises you to be one step ahead in your relationship by consciously defining it. That way, you avoid committing to the bad eggs and enjoy the boundless possibilities of falling for the right one without vulnerability.
