Falling in love with the wrong person and for the wrong reasons can have you blaming love or the person. But what if I told you that you may be responsible? Don’t blame it on how man’s civilization has left many heartless and less empathetic. You must show emotional intelligence when dealing with humans to have you at the top of your game.
What Is Emotional Intelligence And How To Apply?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to contain your emotions while you study others and dictate how they see you. This will free you from the shackles of constant breakups and being entangled in a loveless romance.
First, you must be self-aware to break your way out of freedom. Self-awareness speaks of your readiness to change your situation and search for the errors you are making.
Inner Strength
A lack of confidence can cause you to latch onto a person who is not sincerely into you. You may be blinded by little gestures and take it for love. Also, you may feel you deserve less, but low self-esteem can cause havoc to you and those you love.
At this point, you must recognize the strength in your independence before attaching yourself to another. This way, you gain emotional intelligence and will not be bossed around by someone who only wants to play!
Overcome Abandonment Issues
Having a good grasp of love is also an eye-opener for you. Due to past trauma, you may see abandonment as love when, in fact, showing care and giving time is the way. So even when your partner shows such tendencies, you believe it is the right way to love. Unfortunately, some people have ventured into their happily-ever-after with users, people who care less about their happiness. But their concept of love fails them.
You may be attracted to the wrong type by way of attachment. Either you cling to them too much to feel worthy, or you become emotionally unavailable by running away. This way, you might have lost a good one — so it’s not them, you.
The focus is always on you because only you dictate your life. Funnily enough, your background or environment might play a significant factor in your emotional intelligence, but self-awareness and your yearning to change will determine the outcome.
