There’s No Shame In Being Single

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Being Single does not equate to loneliness. Instead, it presents a time to build yourself and fly free without boundaries or inhibitions. Bear in mind that as a responsible human, you must not act to hurt yourself. Having said that, being single is not the same thing as recklessness.

Nevertheless, some people have been wired to believe that not being married means misery. Somehow, they see single-hood as a time to entertain depression and feel total shame. But is that what being single is about?

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The answer is no. As stated earlier, being without a partner offers you the chance to do some soul-searching. At this point, you are not connected to anyone and cannot be pressured to succumb to their will.

As a single person, you can also make choices based on what is important to you. Finding yourself makes it easier to accept a more worthy love. So, honestly speaking, if you are single, use it well before your time runs out.

Are Married Folks More Fulfilled?

Don’t take things the wrong way; there is no Armageddon battle between the single and the married. However, it is imperative you know that life can be good for a single person.

PsychCentral agrees that research involving who is happier between married and single people can be challenging, but it has been done.

Dr Richard E. Lucas from Michigan State University opined that people’s fulfilment does not necessarily come from marriage. If they were miserable being single, marriage would not change a thing.

Remember that marriage comes with a lot of responsibility and tension, so it becomes a lost battle if you cannot build confidence when you are single.

However, we cannot disregard the fact that shame has been attached to being single. The cure is not as simple as you think, but you are in the right direction once you are self-aware. Strip yourself of feeling insecure and not good enough with daily words of affirmation and building genuine friendships.

Also, learn to do things that give you joy while trying out options to meet new people. But make no mistake of losing yourself in the process. Meanwhile, if you are battling depression, seek a therapist, not a lover, as this can hurt your dating chart!

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