On the first date, when you’re still all lovey-dovey and trying to get to know each other while leaving a lasting impression, you also intend to learn about the person sitting across from you—their favorite things to do, their love language, and maybe even their life goals. But have you ever considered talking about money?

It may sound cliché, but finance is critical to every romance. While the euphoria of a first date can numb you to this topic, if you want to further the relationship, it’s essential to have that uncomfortable conversation about money.

So, when does finance come into play?

Even if you intend to avoid the money talk, you must consider it on the first date. This is because you and your partner will likely visit a place together, and whatever plan you make will likely involve parting with some money. But the question is, whose purse should it come from?

Who does the paying on the first date?

After understanding how imperative the money talk can be, the next step is communicating about it. Before diving into debates, be sure to share your payment plan with your date.

The article from Harvard Business Review does not deny that traditionally, the man is seen as the provider and is expected to settle the first date bill. However, times have changed, and most believe both genders can handle finances, especially on the first date.

But before assuming that your date is ready to foot the bill, speak up. Before stepping out on the first date, have this conversation so it doesn’t feel awkward.

Once you move past the assumption phase, try to understand the other person’s perspective. For instance, if you intend to pay and quickly grab the check, how will it make your partner feel? Be empathetic and avoid coming across as proud.

In conclusion, you don’t have to break a sweat if you believe in going Dutch on a date. If you don’t have enough money to cover the entire bill, discuss it with your potential partner and offer to pay for what you ordered.